The Difference Between Critics and Haters

Sometimes criticism can lead to fights, but that can be healthy too.
Sometimes criticism can lead to fights, but that can be healthy too.

Much of the time, criticism is good. After all, the only way to continually improve yourself — and your work — is to accept input from people.

Other times, however, criticism is worthless. Some people just want to bring you down, which means you can safely ignore just about everything they say.

The key, of course, is knowing the difference. Good criticism can sometimes seem too harsh, and bad criticism can be disguised disguised as trying to help. So here’s my quick guide to separating the good from the bad, so you know who to accept input from.

Good Critics Bad Critics (AKA Haters)
They care about you, your work, your cause, etc., and want to see you succeed. They don’t give a shit about you, or anyone else but themselves.
They tend to be close to you, or at least know you fairly well. They probably don’t know you, and certainly don’t understand you.
Their criticism is meant to help you. Their criticism is meant to hurt you.
Their criticism is based on their experiences, knowledge, and wisdom. Their criticism is based mostly upon their own shortcomings.
Their criticism is honest, straightforward, and constructive. Their criticism is mean, unfounded, and non-constructive.
You should seek advice from these people. You should completely ignore these people.

3 thoughts on “The Difference Between Critics and Haters

  1. I am so glad you know the difference! It is so true that we must surround ourselves with those that care about us, & that we care about — the rest are just excess baggage!!

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